"I have non-existent/terrible willpower." (there is a TL;DR here for you).
Sorry, you're great but also a bloody liar (in your defense, we all are, to varying degrees. Anyone who says they aren't is...lying. Obviously).
Humans create narratives from a hilariously tiny fraction of existing information (about everything, including ourselves)- just by willing it.
Not to mention the odd phenomenon we call the placebo effect.
Here is a link for your reading pleasure. But as you may find it to be a bit lengthy, check out the 'greatest hits':
1. FQ = Freedom Quotient; a suggested scale that attempts to quantify natural, free will, or the degree to which we can generate, chose, and pursue options through an interconnected, non-linear process.
2. Openness or intellectual adventurousness will help you generate many options,
3. Fun fact: The word 'sphexish' derives from the digger wasp Sphex ichneumoneus that allegedly follows very "inflexible behavioral routines." (Etymology meets entomology, haha!).
4. "Attempting to smooth out inequalities in FQ – and to raise the FQ of everyone – should therefore be a goal of schools and social policy."
5. In some religious traditions, the will must be absolutely free to justify sending someone to heaven/hell due to their choices. "With FQ, by contrast, we can recognize that even the freest will is still limited and that everyone is ultimately a part of life's great web of causes and connections."
TL;DR - Your will is always a non-zero, finite entity. Your perception of its non-existence is just a lie you tell yourself. Stop holding yourself back through incorrect assumptions!
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Cave, S., 2015. Free Will Is Back, And Maybe This Time We Can Measure It – Stephen Cave | Aeon Essays. [online] Aeon. Available at: <https://aeon.co/essays/free-will-is-back-and-maybe-this-time-we-can-measure-it> [Accessed 2 November 2020].